Mythbusters: You Can Do It All

I am starting a new, occasional series on my blog about “Mythbusters.” My purpose is to dispel common myths that permeate our thinking. Especially those which can affect the quality of life. Hopefully, the TV show doesn’t get too persnickety about people using their name. 😉

As an eternal optimist, I’ve always believed that I am capable of achieving whatever I put my mind to accomplish. While I still think that is true in principle, I’ve realized that there are limitations to it. That being said, here is the first myth I aim to tackle in this series:

Myth: You Can Do It All

My unquenchable optimism leads me to believe that, if I try hard enough, I can get it all done. I can cross everything off my to-do list. The fact that my reality wasn’t near that ideal just meant that I had to work harder, be more efficient and more focused. Or perhaps the right productivity tool/app was the missing piece.

I lived with this tension between my ideals and my reality for years. Yet, I never lost hope, because there was always a new book to read or software program to try that might make all the difference. (Side note, I recently wrote a post about Todoist, an app that certainly helps boost productivity, but it doesn’t solve the inherent problem.)

A Moment of Truth

One day at work, I was talking with a co-worker who I regard as one of the most efficient, effective professionals out there. She casually mentioned that she never gets her list even close to completed each day, because other things always come up.

That brought from my long-term memory a statement made years earlier by the pastor at my childhood home church, another imposing individual. He stated that if he started his day with a to-do list containing five items, and got two of them done, he was extremely pleased with his accomplishments.

A thought struck me – what if getting everything done every day is not realistic?

If these two people, who were the pinnacle of accomplishment in my mind, admitted that they couldn’t get it all done, why would I think I could? I realized then that my expectations for myself were out of line.

To realize that I was trying to accomplish a standard that was nearly impossible was incredibly freeing. It is not that I was underachieving, it is that I was setting a standard no one could reach.

Further Application

In the time since my original epiphany, I’ve concluded that the sentiment stated above applies to more than daily to-do lists. As priorities change and things get added, abandoned or deleted on the daily scale, so it is with the overall state of life goals.

There are so many, too many, things I want to do, accomplish, be, learn, read. There is not enough time in the day to do a fraction of what I would l like. Author Jon Acuff said it well in his recent book, “Finish,” in a section entitled, Choose What to Bomb. He opined that if you have your mind set on a particular goal, you have to decide what areas of your life you are going to let slide while you pursue it.

If you’re training for a marathon, it is going to take a commitment to run increasing miles over the weeks to get ready for it. That takes the time that you would have otherwise devoted to something else. Something has to give.

For me, I’ve been working hard to re-establish the per-mile running pace I hit when I was at my peak training ten years ago. It is tough, and it takes the time that I would otherwise spend elsewhere. Turns out, I can’t sleep in until the latest possible moment before getting ready for work and also go for a run. I have to decide each and every day what is more important to me.

This choosing of priorities is true for every element of life. If I am going to give 100% to something, I have to realize that something else (likely multiple things) will get less than that. I can’t do it all. As much as I would love to excel at my job, make amazing healthy meals regularly, keep my house spotless, work out every day, write a blog post three times per week, keep up with my volunteer activities and still stay in regular contact with all my friends, I have come to realize that a give and take is required.

It is not an admission of failure. Quite the opposite. It is realizing that my interests, passions, and responsibilities far exceed the capacity in my waking hours. And since maintaining my health through a proper amount of sleep is also essential to me, prioritizing becomes necessary.


My purpose in writing this post is not to be a Debbie Downer and tell you your dreams are unreachable. On the contrary, it is to share what I learned the hard way:

  1. Our own human limitations force us to be honest about what is realistic to get done.
  2. We might be disappointing ourselves unnecessarily by believing it is possible to “get it all done.” That is OK.

It might be time to re-evaluate your goals, figure out your highest priorities, and place them where they belong — at the top of your list. Then give yourself permission to let the other things slide a bit.

What are your thoughts on this topic? Ever met anyone who appears to be able to do it all? I am willing to bet they are letting some things slide that are undetectable to others.




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Todoist: A Task Management App that Helps Boost My Productivity

I live by to to-do lists. Without them, I flounder helplessly and end up using my time ineffectively. With them, I am more likely to stay focused and task-oriented.

In recent years, I had started to become discontent with pen and paper lists for a few reasons. One, they got long and overwhelming in a hurry. I didn’t have a system in place to organize or prioritize them. Two, they quickly became outdated or sloppy as things got added or changed.

In an attempt to remember undone items, I would scribble new ones before, after, and in the margins. It didn’t take long before my already overwhelming list became unbearable and disheveled, which served to hamper my productivity mindset. It helped to rewrite the list, but for whatever reason, I loathed having to do that. I was stuck in this stage for quite some time.

An In-Between Solution

To ease the struggle, I started writing my lists on a spreadsheet, with a column for each day of the week, and tasks for that day underneath. This tactic helped not only in visualizing the week at a glance, but I also was relieved to be able to copy and paste items from one day to the next when needed. Pretty sure I am not alone in having undone tasks at the end of the day.

This solution was an improvement over paper lists, but after awhile it started to feel clunky because I still had to do a lot of updating and it was a challenge to implement a sense of task hierarchy.

Introducing a game changer

Discovering Todoist rocked my little old-fashioned world. It is an app/website that allows you to create project lists according to your needs, create tasks within each and schedule them by the due date. For whatever reason, the idea of a task management app had never even occurred to me. Don’t hold that against me, you ultra-techie types.

Once you’ve set up a task under its appropriate category, you can set a reminder for whatever time in advance you choose.

Project list view:

Todoist projects

Set up projects by areas of responsibility

List/calendar view:


This is an overview of the next few days’ tasks

Since it has a calendar tool built in for scheduling, you can set up reminders as far in advance as you like. For instance, I set up an item that reminds me of a yearly charge to my debit card every January. It pops up a reminder a few days before the charge goes through, so I plan accordingly with my finances.

Or it works wonders when a project at work gets postponed to a date in the future. If I fear I might forget about a deadline six months out, a simple reminder with the proper amount of lead time beforehand eliminates any cause for concern.

This app has indeed helped me feel in control of the tasks I have, both at home and at work. A few more things I find nifty about it:

  • The web version and app sync up, so if I am doing more extensive updates on my computer, they automatically carry over to my smartphone.
  • If a task comes due that I am not ready for, I can reschedule it for a future date with just a few clicks. Much slicker than rewriting a paper to-do list constantly, IMO.
  • Setting specific due times triggers alerts when they are due, with advance notice as I direct. Helps me master my timeline and schedule.
  • For items that occur regularly, I can set up recurring tasks that reappear at intervals I set up, such as every Monday, or every other Sunday.

The ability to set up tasks at the beginning of the week, by day and time, is quite liberating. It takes my planning to a higher level, but still allows the flexibility that is often needed when things change. If you struggle with taming your to do list, as I did, I heartily recommend Todoist.

If you are already a task management beast, what is your secret?

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Australia: A Major Bucket List Item

Ever since I was in my early teens, I wanted to visit Australia so badly. I’ve just always been fascinated by it. Kangeroos, the Outback, Crocodile Dundee and Steve Irwin, the Crocodile Hunter, all captivated my interest.

My junior year, I applied to be a foreign exchange student there. But fortunately, I didn’t get chosen, because the idea of being away from my family for a year scared me to death. The interviewer for the process probably picked up on that.

Later, I made plans with a friend to take a trip there, but it didn’t end up working out. I was disappointed but moved on with life. I never lost the burning desire to visit, however.

Fast forward many years, to 2015. A fortuitous, more likely, providential, series of events lead to my husband Mike and I having the opportunity to fulfill the long-held dream to go there! (Mike had always wanted to go as well.) The occasion, not that we needed one, was for our fifth wedding anniversary.

Our jobs had never given us the luxury of planning vacations in advance, and this trip too came out with startling suddenness that prevented us from planning out a detailed itinerary before we left. While this tactic can often lead to a vacation that leaves much to be desired, it worked very well for us, with God’s grace.

We knew we could take a few weeks off work, we had some money saved for a vacation, and we were armed with buddy passes from my dear brother, a Delta airlines employee. All we knew was we wanted to go as far away as we could with the money and time available to us. We settled on Australia no more than five days before our scheduled departure.

Before our departure, life was crazy for us at home and work, leaving little time to plan like I would have preferred. We each spent a handful of hours doing online research the week before and poured through a tourism book I had purchased. Since Australia is such an enormous country, the hardest part was figuring out which section we should focus on, knowing that our time would allow us a fraction of a fraction of what we wanted to see.

The day came for our trip, and off we went.

Crossing the international date line eats up a day of travel on the way, so our Monday night departure put us in Sydney on Wednesday morning. We stumbled out of the airport at 7 am with no Australian cash, no lodging booked, and only a loose idea how we were going to spend the next week and a half.

I should add, that for the first couple days, nay, the whole trip, we repeatedly looked at each other in sheer delight and astonishment – “We are in AUSTRALIA!!! I can’t believe it!!!” It was a dream come true, and we were determined to make every minute count.

After figuring out the public train system, we ended up in the Kings Cross neighborhood of Sydney, where we found a reasonably priced shared hostel room with two sets of bunk beds. I was hoping we’d have it to ourselves, but we ended up getting bunkmates in the form of a couple from Sweden who has just spent the last few months traveling through the area we were planning to go. They ended up being fun to talk to and a wealth of knowledge about what to do.

We set out on foot through the stunning Royal Botanical Gardens, making our way to the spectacular Sydney Opera House. We giggled at the solid wall of tourists snapping pictures and selfies left and right, and we giggled at ourselves as we proceeded to do the same thing.

Sydney Opera House from Sydney Harbor

Sydney Opera House from Sydney Harbor

Settling in with refreshments at the outdoor Opera Bar and taking in the view of the Sydney Harbor, our jet-lag began to settle in like a thick fog. We trekked back to our hostel, found some pizza from a street vendor and made our way to an internet cafe to do some research for our next few moves. This is where the decision about where to go loomed largely. So many options, so little time and money.

Other than seeing the Opera House, my only “must” for the trip was snorkeling the Great Barrier Reef, a subset of the bucket list item of going to Australia. It was late October when we went, and it was spring in Sydney, with pleasant temperatures and rain.

The loose itinerary I had devised before we left involved flying up to Cairns (a popular reef jump off point), and then making our way down the east coast via rental car, seeing as much as we could with the time available. Though the reef can be accessed from much of the east coast, the warm tropical climates of the northeast corner of the country won out, so we booked tickets to Cairns departing the following evening.

More sightseeing around Sydney filled up the rest of the next day, including a visit to the Taronga Zoo. I also “needed” to see some kangaroos, since we’d come all that way.

An evening flight from Sydney to Cairns put us in late at night, and we eventually found the motel we’d booked for a few winks of sleep before our AM excursion out to the reef.

The Great Barrier Reef is about a two-hour boat trip from shore, making tourist snorkeling boats big business in Cairns and surrounding towns. I’d booked us spots on a vessel, and I was beside myself with sheer joy and anticipation. We’d been rained on in Sydney, had left buckets of rain back home, and were now in a warm tropical paradise to fulfill a dream of 20 years.

It did not disappoint. Words won’t do it justice; these photos might only begin:

Underwater at the Great Barrier Reef; Cairns, Australia.

Underwater at the Great Barrier Reef. Photos by Michael David Sorensen.


I mentioned that we were in disbelief that this trip was a reality. I should also add that I was unspeakably grateful for the opportunity, and could not stop thanking God for His kindness in allowing us to experience it. Throughout the trip, I would frequently mutter both to myself and aloud to Mike, “I think my head might explode from how amazing this is!!!”

We’d now been in Australia for three days and had six days before returning to Sydney to catch a flight home. As per the plan, we rented a car and headed south for our grand, unknown adventure. We had a loose idea of places we wanted to see, and 1000 miles to drive. It was go time!

Mike developed a great habit of chatting up locals to find out the best places to go in each region we visited. Only a few hours into our road trip (right-hand driver on the left side of the road, for the first time ever), we saw signs for Mission Beach, a place a guy in a coffee shop had recommended to Mike that morning. Though we knew nothing about it, we thought, “what the hey, we should at least stop and check it out; maybe grab some lunch and sit on the beach.”

When I saw that beach, the sensation of my head wanting to explode from delight got amped up considerably. It was unbelievably beautiful, like a Corona commercial come to life.

Mission Beach - Queensland, Australia

Mission Beach – Queensland, Australia

We found a cafe a few blocks from the beach and munched some fish tacos, then headed to the majestic light blue water for some swimming. Confession: we didn’t wait 30 minutes after eating.

The water was buoyant and peaceful. Note: the coastline along the reef expanse doesn’t have huge waves, since they get broken over the reef, miles out from the shore. The result is gentle, swimmable waves. I floated on my back and again, wondered if my head would explode.

Mission Beach - Queensland, Australia

Mission Beach – Queensland, Australia

The only thing that minimized the perfection was a persistent itchy feeling. Mike noticed it too. We later found out that it was a thing called “sea lice.” Somewhat unsettling to learn in retrospect that you were being nibbled on by invisible lice, but it just added some character to the experience.

Since we didn’t have any lodging lined up, we stopped at a local tourism center to get some ideas on places to see and stay nearby. That turned out to be a good move, because not only were we hesitant to leave such a magical beach town, we learned that the coastal highway veered inland just out of town, and headed into some less exotic landscape for the next few hundred miles.

As if we hadn’t already hit the awesomeness jackpot, it continued as the lady found us the last room available in a resort on the beach, that was within our budget. Our private cabin was only 100 yards from the water, so we decided to brave the sea lice once again for another magical dip in the sea.

That night we ventured back into the village and found an open-air restaurant playing good music and serving fabulous food and drinks. I repeatedly shook my head in disbelief at how God had kindly allowed our trip to go flawlessly thus far, and basked in the wonder, knowing that the most perfect beach from earlier that day was only a few hundred feet away. It felt like being in a movie about paradise.

The next day was a long one of driving along the coastal highway to get our next destination of Airlie Beach, the gateway to the Whitsunday Islands.

Something Australia does well is, it includes pictures on roadside signs pointing to tourist stops, giving you a visual that makes you want to take a side trip on many of them. There were multiple things we wanted to see, but we had to keep going to make Airlie Beach by nightfall. We did make time for one — Wallaman Falls, an 879 foot single drop waterfall. It was well worth it. (For comparison for my Pacific Northwest friends: Multnomah Falls is 620 feet and contains two drops.)

Back on the highway, we stopped at a McDonalds for wifi while Mike looked for lodging in Airlie Beach, and I booked us a day cruise out to one of the islands in the Whitsundays. Mike found us a room at a house with multiple bedrooms that had been converted to an inn for travelers. It was after dark when we hit town, and the place was high atop a steep hill and proved to be very difficult to find in the dark.

When we finally found it, it turned out to be quite a bit nicer than we were expecting, especially for the price. Though it was disappointing to not be able to see the beach due to darkness, my research on the town before we left had me pretty hyped for the views the morning would reveal. I stood on the street high above, heard music spilling out from nightclubs on the main drag below and once again could scarcely contain my gratitude and excitement.

The next morning, the trek up the steep hill, pushing our rented Toyota Corolla to the limits proved to be well worth it as we drank in a breathtaking view of the Coral Sea from one of the balconies at our host’s home. We could have stayed there all day it was so lovely, but we had a boat to catch!

We made our way to the docks, climbed aboard our Cruise Whitsundays vessel and were met with yet another jaw-dropping vista as we cruised through the most unspeakably beautiful turquoise water. I couldn’t stop staring at it.

Port at Hamilton Island - Whitsundays, Queensland, Australia

Pulling into port at Hamilton Island – Whitsundays, Queensland, Australia

The boat made its way through a few different tropical island ports to pick up and drop off passengers, including Hamilton Island, which is among the most famous of them. Fun fact: we later learned that Taylor Swift had taken her entire crew on a vacation there just days after we had been there! Mike and I made a pact we’d make it back to that island sometime.

Our destination was Whitehaven Beach, a stunning, remote, seven-mile stretch of white sand on Whitsunday Island, one of the few islands in the chain where no commerce was allowed. Our scheduled stop there was a mere 90 minutes; not nearly long enough.

Whitehaven Beach, Whitsunday Island, Queensland, Australia

Whitehaven Beach, Whitsunday Island, Queensland, Australia

Unbeknownst to us, we happened to be cruising through the country only 1-2 weeks before “jellyfish season” which begins the first of November as the weather turns warmer. Terrifying, deadly creatures like the box jellyfish can issue a sting that will do anything from ruin your vacation with a hospital stay to perhaps end your life. Though we were just ahead of jellyfish season, the announcer on the boat warned that sting proof suits were available (they look like full-length wetsuits) and were recommended just in case.

I declined to wear one, preferring to enjoy the majestic tropical turquoise water without it. The warning from the announcer did leave me paranoid enough to continually scan the water as I was swimming, thus taking away the relaxing sensation I had felt a few days earlier at Mission Beach. Apart from that, however, Whitehaven Beach proved to be even more magical, if that is possible.

After our stay in Airlie Beach, it was time to really put some miles in to make it down the coast on schedule. We’d figured we’d only make it as far as Brisbane, then catch a plane to Sydney where our buddy passes would take us back to Portland.

The next few days were a straight road trip. The tropics of Queensland were behind us, the scenery before us just average, with occasional views of the ocean. But it was still fascinating to be driving through AUSTRALIA!

One of two final notable stops on our trip involved the beautiful, meticulously landscaped Australia Zoo, founded by the late Steve Irwin & family. Khaki-clad Aussies with fabulous accents showed us all the wonders of kangeroos, koalas, crocodiles and much more. This was the Disneyland of zoos, and it was far better than the one we’d visited in Sydney.

Entrance to Australia Zoo, and a HUGE memorial to the late, great Crocodile Hunter, Steve Irwin

Entrance to Australia Zoo, and a HUGE memorial to the late, great Crocodile Hunter, Steve Irwin

As a last tourist stop, we visited Noosa Beach, which was heralded by several Aussies we’d met as the place to go to see Australian celebrities. Several of the local cafes had all their chairs positioned facing the main drag for celebrity watching. The town reminded me of an Australian Beverly Hills, with expensive boutiques, elegant restaurants and a general air of fanciness.

After Noosa, it was time to head to the Brisbane Airport to catch our Sydney flight. It was sad to see our fabulous vacation coming to an end, but we’d had more fun than we could have ever imagined and made memories we’ll cherish for the rest of our lives.

Excellent Australian Adventure

Mike & Summer’s Excellent Australian Adventure

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You Can Do More Than You Think You Can

“There is no man living that can not do more than he thinks he can.” – Henry Ford

I’ll agree with ol’ Henry on that.

When it comes to getting things accomplished, I’ve found that sometimes, through a variety of means, I sell myself short and convince myself of a level of achievement that is safe but is beneath what I am actually capable of doing. As I observe others, I find that I am not alone in this.

Why is it that we so often allow ourselves to underachieve? I’ve identified three common reasons. I’ll briefly share those, then go into three scenarios through which we can realize greater potential in ourselves.

Three reasons we underachieve:

1. Fear

This one is pretty straightforward. Doing more than what we’ve always done can be terrifying because we don’t know what will happen when we try something new.

When I was fresh out of college, stepping into my career field (at the time was radio broadcasting) was absolutely terrifying. I was afraid of failing, of being a terrible DJ, of getting laughed at, getting fired, etc.

You know what happened? I was a terrible DJ at first. People did laugh at me. I survived and got better. Then I went on to a different job in the radio industry, and the terror resumed, this time with more intensity because the stakes were higher at this job in a larger market.

The trend continued at each subsequent job, even after I started working in marketing following my stint as a radio personality. Which each new career move, more responsibility and higher expectations, and more acute fear. I didn’t stay in the fear zone, however. More on that shortly.

2. Laziness

Sometimes we don’t achieve much because we like doing less even better. It’s comfortable to do what we know. Laziness will stunt growth every time. Often we recognize it, but are unwilling to change, even when we see that our lazy ways are holding us back.

3. Ignorance

This is more difficult to pinpoint, but it is just as real as the first two. “You don’t know what you don’t know.” We may survive for years, perhaps even a whole lifetime, doing less than our full capability.  It takes the trials of life to stretch the boundaries and make us aware of our higher potential.

Those are the three most common traps for performing at less than our most capable levels.

Now let’s look at three ways in which we are most likely to learn our potential.

Through fire – the trials of life

In my experience, this is the most common method. Whether it is the pressure of finishing those college term papers that are due in the morning, navigating the demands of a boss that works 24/7 and expects employees to do the same, training for a race, getting in shape for your wedding or dealing with family drama, they all come at us fast and take more than we are prepared to give.

Those scenarios are “where the rubber meets the road” as the saying goes. This is where we see what we are made of.

Looking back on some of the fires I’ve walked through, I recall a whole lot of sleepless nights, crying out to God for help, tearful phone conversations with my folks, hyperventilating, wrestling soul-shaking doubts that I feared would do me in.

It was in these times that I found my grit. I determined that I refused to quit, to fail, or to do less than my best at any of the challenges – no matter what it took. Looking back, I am amazed what I was able to accomplish. By the grace of God, and with the help of trusted confidantes, to be sure.

Through mentorship

I would dare say most of us have goals we long to achieve that seem out of reach. We know what we want, we just don’t know how to get there. That is where mentors and coaches come in. Mentors can show us the way; often they have already done that what we want to master and have invaluable guidance they can offer.

A more direct but often more costly route is to hire a coach. Stats indicate that life coaching a $2 billion industry annually. If you don’t have someone who can mentor you but are willing to spend some cash on a professional, you can have a path to success customized for you. I’ve seen several friends make dramatic life improvements in areas of business and health through the effect of working with a coach.

Through self-discipline

The truly rare among us become high-achieving, goal-smashing geniuses through sheer will and self-disciple. Note: I am not 100% sure such a person actually exists, but I am throwing it out there just in case. The “self-made man” feels like a fallacy to me, because everyone had help from someone along the way.

Nevertheless, I suppose it is possible for someone to be so motivated to improve that they take the steps necessary to get where they are going without much outside help.

By way of a summary, we can be stunted from accomplishing our maximum potential through fear, laziness or not knowing our limits. We most often improve ourselves when life gets hectic, when we call upon others for help, or when we buckle down and determine to create better habits for ourselves.

As for me, I’ve walked through plenty of stressful situations thus far in life. I suspect most of us have. Though they were ultra miserable to wade through, they made me aware of where I was falling short and pushed my limits so I could see what I was capable of.

Have you been holding back on rocking some goals? What is causing you to do so? What will it take to push you out of your comfort zone into high achieving mode?

Whatever it is, I am confident that you can do it.


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The 3 Stages of Emotional Connection to Costco

Going to Costco for the first time as a youngster was startling to my young mind. The experience changed as I got older. Here is what I have identified as the three phases of connection to Costco.

Shock and Awe (the teenage years)

Shopping in a warehouse? I can get a sweater, a blender, a new couch and a pallet of eggs, all while eating a giant polish dog with refillable soda for pocket change? Somehow this doesn’t compute. Hey…a mega box of candy bars?? OK, this place will do.

Disdain (the young adult years)

After getting used to the idea of buying in bulk, it gets old and, in my case, laughable. As a single girl with roommates, the idea of buying a box of cereal almost as large as my allotted space in the cupboard seemed a bit foolish. I scarcely set foot in Costco in my 20s or early 30s.

Acceptance (full on adulting)

Now that I’m married and the primary shopper for our household of two, Costco came back into my life. My husband got us a membership several years back primarily so we could save money on gas. For the first few years, my young adult disinterest reigned, and I wasn’t particularly interested in going inside to shop.

One day a few years back, a friend shared with me a delicious snack he had gotten at Costco and raved about what a bargain it was versus grocery store prices. Naturally, it came in a family-sized two-pack. I liked it so much, I decided to go get some for myself.

That is when it all began.

I started wandering the aisles and allowing myself to be tempted by the Amazon-sized portions of things we consume in ordinary quantities. The one snack became a regular purchase. Which turned into two when I discovered another tasty treat in bulk.

“Maybe I do need a pallet of toilet paper, five years worth of anti-bacterial wipes and 20 cans of black beans,” I thought to myself as I continued wandering. “I could always find a spot to stash some of it in the basement.”

With that thought, I realized I had finally become a responsible, possibly boring, adult. While part of me gets a little sad on the inside at such a thought, mostly I just laugh and embrace it. And console myself with a five-pound bag of sweet potato crackers.

Have you found similar phases in your emotional connection to Costco? Please share what your thoughts are!

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Why People Hate Christians & Christianity

These are fascinating times in which we live. Since my childhood, I’ve seen Judeo-Christian ethics slowly but surely move from basically accepted standards and the cultural norm to rejected, stomped on, and moved to what, subjectively, seems like a shunned fringe of society. This sentiment is reinforced heavily on Twitter and other social media sites.

To devout Christians (among which I admittedly count myself), this is no surprise. The only startling thing is how quickly the tables have turned in the last few years. My reflections on this topic involve a combination of sentiments expressed by others in conversation, in various online forums, and Scripture.

Here are five reasons I’ve concluded why Christians and Christianity get so much hate hurled at them.

1. “Christians are hypocrites”

This one is a bit yesteryear. Dismissing Christianity because “Christians are hypocrites” was common before it became a national pastime to dismiss the Bible and Christianity. To address it briefly, however, yes, Christians are hypocrites. Because they are humans. All humans are innately capable of claiming to believe a set of principles and then turning to act in a way that defies those principles.

This behavior is not limited to Christians, but it is highly devasting when they make themselves out to be hypocrites. Cringeworthy is not a strong enough word to describe it.

We have the perfect, sinless Savior as our example. When one calls themselves a Christian then engages in behavior contrary to Christ’s commands, it is painful to behold. And the watching world pounces mercilessly on it.

When a pastor has an extramarital affair. When someone who identifies as a Christian on social media personally attacks someone with whom they disagree. When “church” groups picket events and institutions they find immoral. When believers cheat, lie, disrespect others, or engage in any sinful behavior, people notice and claim that as a reason not to believe Christianity.

Word of caution to sincere Christians: Don’t be a hypocrite. Know what the Bible says, and live by it, thus showing your lives to be beyond reproach. There are enough fake Christians out there; let’s not make the problems worse.

Word of caution to non-Christians: Yes, there are those who call themselves Christians, but are actually not. Fakes have existed since Christ incarnate was resurrected and ascended back into heaven. It is nothing new. One of Satan’s brilliant tactics is to turn people off from Christ by placing impostors in the church who dishonor the faith.

2. A Christian has hurt them

This one is a painful reality. Even though Christians are no longer slaves to sin (Romans 6:6), they are still capable of sin.

I’ve heard stories from people who abandoned any interest in the God of the Bible because the ugly behavior of one of God’s children was so hurtful to them, the resulting bad taste in their mouth caused them to reject Christianity altogether. It breaks my heart when I hear this.

This calls for another admonition to Christians from Philippians 2:12, to “work out your salvation with fear and trembling.”

As one who grew up in a Christian church, I often heard that people are watching to see if we are faithful to Christ. While sometimes it is hard to tell if that is the case, it becomes crystal clear when a prominent Christian falls into sin. People come out of the woodwork to celebrate the fall, right along with Satan and his demons who rejoice at how many can be led astray by such an occurrence.

3. They’ve been hurt by the church

The Christian church is full of humans that are still capable of sinning. It is therefore capable of acting unwisely towards the outside world, and to its own members, in the process turning people off who were looking for an excuse to dismiss Christianity.

I shudder to even cite this as an example, but the most extreme case I can think of is the Westboro Baptist “Church,” whose members are infamous for picketing, hate, reprehensible behavior and zero evidence of Christlikeness. Yet, they unironically do what they do in the name of God.

They are in no way representative of the message of Christ. Not even for a second. Yet, to someone who has never read the Bible or interacted with a true follower of Christ, they might actually believe that is how Christians think and behave. Satan is probably winded from all the victory laps he has run while seeing what they have done to Christ’s flawless name.

There are more moderate examples, to be sure. The point is, when God’s Word is mishandled or ignored by the church, it is capable of doing immense damage to the watching world.

4. They always have been hated (Jesus predicted it)

It didn’t take long after Jesus ascended back into heaven (after being killed by His own people and being raised again three days later) before His followers began being persecuted, scattered and murdered. Just like Jesus predicted:

“If the world hates you, you know that it has hated Me before it hated you. If you were of the world, the world would love its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, because of this the world hates you.”
– John 15:18-19

Other than the last few hundred years in Western civilization and the unprecedented first 200 years of the American experiment, Christians have had a rough go of it off and on since the beginning.

5. The most important reason

Though all the above are true, there is one reason that stands far above others, why people shun Christianity: because they prefer to sin rather than to get right with God.

“This is the judgment, that the Light has come into the world, and men loved the darkness rather than the Light, for their deeds were evil.” – John 3:19

God, in His generosity, gave each of us a conscience, and undeniable evidence of His great works in the world (Romans 1:18-22). Our sin nature rebels against God, and we fight mightily against that which is obvious – the need for God.

Dearest reader, my hope, and prayer is that you will respond rightly to God and His wonderfully gracious offer of salvation through Christ alone (John 3:16, John 14:6) if you have not yet done so.

What is your response to Christ?


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The Theology of Weather: Seeing God in the Elements (Snowy Day Thoughts)

As I write this, snowflakes are gently falling, and have been all day, in my corner of the beautiful Pacific Northwest. I still get giddy like a little kid when it snows. Even more so when the snow sticks to the ground. Though my zest for snowball fights and building snow art has diminished with age, I remain filled with childlike wonder at the beauty of it.

As I observed the silent splendor on a morning walk, I began to think of God, and how the snow is a gift from Him, as is weather of various types. It is a gift, as well as a reminder of His character if we pay closer attention.

Snow is pure

The white that blankets the ground after a winter snowfall makes everything appear clean, beautiful and pure. It can be seen as a symbol of God’s work of redemption in our lives, through Jesus Christ.

“Come now, and let us reason together,”
Says the Lord,
“Though your sins are as scarlet,
They will be as white as snow; – Isaiah 1:18a

That alone makes me appreciate the snow even more!

Additionally, the beauty of the glorified Christ as revealed in Revelation 1 uses snow as part of the imagery to describe the purity and holiness of the Son of God.

Moving from the figurative to the literal, a practical observation about snow.

It disrupts our lives

Those of us that live in areas that are perpetually ill-equipped for snow regarding clearing roads, proper vehicles to navigate it, and a lack of knowledge about how to safely drive in it, find our lives disrupted by the beautiful white stuff. Schools get delayed or canceled, people can’t make it to work, kids (and some adults) cannot contain their glee.

For a substance that imparts such serenity, it sure can disorder schedules.  Not unlike the transformative work of God in the lives of Christians. For all the peace and joy it provides, when done right, it changes everything.

The beauty of God can easily be seen in other forms of weather as well.


Pacific Northwesterners have a love/hate relationship with rain. The consistent 8-10 months we get a year can be overwhelming. Especially when the temps are low, and we have stretches of dozens of consecutive days of drippiness.

Though there is a temptation to complain, an honest evaluation requires acknowledging that the stunning greenery and beauty we get to enjoy here necessitates the rainfall. I’ve had more experiences of profound worship of our Creator through beholding His creation than I can count. If rain is what it takes, then I say bring it on.

The wisdom of God in giving us the water cycle to keep our planet and its inhabitants hydrated also must not be overlooked.


I scarcely meet someone who doesn’t enjoy the sun. Yes, they are out there, but they are a scant minority in my observation. Sunshine is amazing!!

To once more draw on my native Northwest perspective, we cherish sunny days. We wait through months of cold, gray, liquid sunshine for those few months when that bright orb warms up our lives.  Seasonal waterfront restaurants open, and remain consistently crowded. People who have been hiding from the elements come out in droves. The best our region has to offer is on full display.

The sun is arguably the most poignant weather metaphor for the glory of God. Its warmth sustains life, its heat can be deadly, one cannot gaze at it directly, yet its light makes seeing possible.

Ancient cultures worshipped the sun. Yet, the Bible plainly describes it as part of God’s creation — and that through which we can rightly glimpse His character.

Psalm 19:1-6 is one of the best passages to tackle this:

The heavens are telling of the glory of God;
And their expanse is declaring the work of His hands.
Day to day pours forth speech,
And night to night reveals knowledge.
There is no speech, nor are there words;
Their voice is not heard.
Their [a]line has gone out through all the earth,
And their utterances to the end of the world.
In them He has placed a tent for the sun,
Which is as a bridegroom coming out of his chamber;
It rejoices as a strong man to run his course.
Its rising is from [b]one end of the heavens,
And its circuit to the [c]other end of them;
And there is nothing hidden from its heat.

To summarize, it is fascinating to observe how God reveals Himself to us through weather of all kinds. Not only do the seasons give what we need to sustain life (and themselves are a metaphor for the stages of life), but the weather contained within each is an invitation to investigate the One who gave life to us in the first place, and freely offers eternal life through His Son, Jesus Christ.

Thoughts on this subject? I would love to hear any questions or comments!




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The Miracle of Santification

“The Lord works in mysterious ways.”

This phrase, oft-used though it is, pertains to so many different situations. The mind and the ways of God are so incredible, there are really no words to describe them.

“For My thoughts are not your thoughts,
Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the Lord.
“For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
So are My ways higher than your ways
And My thoughts than your thoughts. – Isaiah 55:8-9

Today’s topic is sanctification. It is not a word that is used much anymore, unfortunately. I don’t even hear it in church circles much. To use ye old Merriam-Webster, sanctification means:

1 : to set apart to a sacred purpose or to religious use : consecrate
2 : to free from sin : purify
3 a : to impart or impute sacredness, inviolability, or respect to
b : to give moral or social sanction to
4 : to make productive of holiness or piety

In short, it is the process God uses, in His mysterious ways, to make people more like Christ as they follow and seek Him throughout their lives. I call it a miracle, because, it is. How God can take a filthy sinner, save them from their evil ways, and begin a supernatural work in them to make them holy is truly beyond comprehension.

I had a conversation recently with a teenage girl who expressed frustration at the fact that she didn’t know if God was working in her life. She wanted to be a mature Christian but didn’t see that it was happening.

Two passages immediately came to mind which address that topic, more or less.

For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus. – Philippians 1:6

That verse has brought me comfort over the years. Knowing that God is continuing His work in my life, even when I can’t tell, is quite encouraging.

But do not let this one fact escape your notice, beloved, that with the Lord one day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years like one day. The Lord is not slow about His promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance. – 2 Peter 3:8-9

While this passage isn’t specifically about sanctification, it does help us refocus our perspective on time. While a year feels like a year to us mere mortals, the God of the Bible has the advantage of looking at the whole continuum of human history, from start to finish.

With that perspective, we can begin to appreciate that God sees the long game. He saw all our days long before we were born (Psalm 139:16). He knows each step we will take, and therefore can see how our walk with Him is going to turn out.

Having traveled a few more miles down the highway of life than my young friend, I took the opportunity to reflect on the years that elapsed since I was her age. I can say, it has been an incredible ride.  Thinking about the status of my faith 20 years ago versus now reveals to me how much God has been at work, shaping my attitudes and growing my love for Him.

To those Christians wondering or perhaps concerned about the process of sanctification in their lives, I would offer the following admonitions.

  1. Be Patient.  Considering the passages above, we know that God is working in our lives. The fruit of His labor will unfold over the years, and may not be evident right away. It wasn’t for yours truly.
  2. Be Prayerful. To borrow from a country song, “Don’t let your praying knees get lazy.” With the command to “pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17) in view, let us continue in fellowship with our heavenly Father, seeking His ways as we pour out our hearts to Him in prayer.
  3. Be Persistent. Don’t give up on your walk with God. Become a student of the Word, reading it daily, and see #2. 🙂 Continue to seek Him first (Matthew 6:33) and watch what He does in your heart. Keeping a journal of things you are learning along the way helps a great deal to track your progress.

The fantastic thing about sanctification is that it is an ongoing process, for as long as we live. If I can see the differences in 20 years, I can only imagine what 20 more years will bring.

God is truly good, and His works are wonderful. I pray dear reader that you will experience this for yourself if you have not already.


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Understanding Introverts: A lesser known fact or two

Life for introverts has a unique set of challenges. I feel fortunate that I have learned more about introversion over the years so I can embrace the way God made me, rather than be ashamed of it. This post shares some of the things I’ve learned, that may well help fellow introverts. It is also helpful for extroverts because it includes advice for interacting with the introverts in your life.
I originally posted this one year ago.

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The Good News Isn’t Good Without the Bad News (A Brief Look at Gospel Implications)

Sometimes, you cannot comprehend how wonderful something is until you are aware of or experience the opposite, to glean an appreciation.

“You don’t know what you’ve got until its gone.”

“The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.”

“There are unknown unknowns, things we don’t know that we don’t know.”
Courtesy of Donald Rumsfeld

“I didn’t realize how much I cared about my ex, until I saw her with someone else.”
– A paraphrase of 50% of country songs

I think we can all relate to that idea.

I want to talk about how it pertains to the Gospel, the greatest story in the history of mankind. defines the Gospel as:

“the story of Christ’s life and teachings, especially as contained in the first four books of the New Testament, namely Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John.”

If I may be so bold to write about the Gospel, I’ll start by using the famous verse(s):

 “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life. For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through Him.” – John 3:16-17

The Gospel is the miraculous account of how God offered up a plan to redeem the world from its fallen state, through the sacrifice of the Son of God incarnate, Jesus Christ.

Rather than go into detail about what the Gospel is, I will list a few resources for further study.

  • Ligioner Ministries has a good article here.
  • Grace to You (John MacArthur) goes into detail here.
  • Here is a four-minute video with Ravi Zacharias explaining it.

I want to briefly touch on what preceeds the Gospel: our need for salvation, one and all.

The noise and confusion of our current time, as well as abundant erroneous messages found in pop culture, serve to distract and mislead the searching soul from the truth found in God’s Word.

The truth of God’s law isn’t pretty. It tells us in no uncertain terms, that God is holy and perfect, and that nothing that falls short of perfection can be in His presence.
(Romans 3:23)

Furthermore, it spells out in terrifying detail that everyone, and I mean EVERYONE is born into sin as a result of the curse brought on by Adam and Eve. (Genesis 3)

We are all sinners by nature, and are slaves to sin.

“Jesus answered them, ‘Truly, truly, I say to you, everyone who commits sin is a slave of sin.‘” – John 8:34

Lest you hesitate to believe that, consider the law itself, in its original form, the ten commandments.

Ever done something disrespectful to your mom or dad?

Ever stolen anything?

Ever taken the Lord’s name in vain (yes, saying “OMG,” but the whole phrase, counts)?

Ever considered everything in life as more important than God?

Ever told a lie?

Even doing one of those things, one time makes you a sinner, guilty before God and unable to redeem yourself. Yet all of us commit sins, constantly. Often as second nature. Because sinning is our nature.

Because God loves us so, so very much, He longed to redeem us from our sins to restore our fellowship with Him, as he intended for humans.  That is why He offered a divine, miraculous intervention through the incarnation, life, death and resurrection of the Son of God, Jesus Christ.

God, in His great mercy, made a way for us to avoid the damning justice we all deserve for our sins. There are no words fit to adequately describe what God freely offers to all who receive Him.

The problem is, so many are deluded into thinking that they don’t need God or the salvation He offers through Jesus. Or they think they can appease God and earn their way to heaven through being good.  Fortunately, God was gracious enough to give us the law so we’d know the depth of our depravity and our desperate moral bankruptcy apart from Him.

“…On the contrary, I would not have come to know sin except through the Law; for I would not have known about coveting if the Law had not said, ‘You shall not covet.’
– Romans 7:7b

“as it is written,
There is none righteous, not even one;
There is none who understands,
There is none who seeks for God;
All have turned aside, together they have become useless;
There is none who does good,
There is not even one.’ – Romans 3:10-12

The unspeakably glorious truth of God’s plan of redemption is there for anyone to find. We just need to be made aware of our helplessness (the bad news), before we can truly appreciate the Good News, that new life comes from God through Jesus Christ.

Jesus said to him, I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father but through Me.” – John 14:6

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