The Strange Dynamic of Facebook Friendships

What a complicated world in which we live. Those of us who remember life before social media, even before the web, can think back to a time when life was simpler. Not painless, but more straightforward.

In developed society today, with the advent of social media, it seems to me that navigating the world is a lot more complicated. The flip side of that is there are a myriad more opportunities for fame and fortune, but they come with a price.

I’ve thought a lot over the years about the strange situation in which we find ourselves in a world where Facebook commands so much of our social lives. In a short amount of time, it’s gone from a platform for college students to communicate, to a tech giant that has minimized or replaced our phone books, social email and conversations, and revolutionized the way we do business and life. It is pretty astounding.

Along the way, how we connect with others has been overhauled by Facebook as well. It has created an artificial context for relationships.

It is fascinating to think about how it has changed … just about everything. For this post, I want to focus on Facebook “friendship,” if you can call it that.

Real life friends vs. Facebook friends

Real life friends are the people besides your family that are closest to you. The folks you do life with: go to each other’s homes, exchange meals, go see movies, share in hobbies, talk about life, problems with. That is typically a pretty small group of people. For me, the friends I see regularly is fewer than 20. When you start to add in acquaintances and old friends, the list gets larger.

On Facebook, the list gets expanded dramatically. Suddenly everyone you’ve ever met, and everyone you just met, are eligible to become “friends” with you on Facebook. Depending on your philosophy for who you add, the list can get large and outlandish in a big hurry.

  • Friends of friends you met once or twice
  • People you meet at a party
  • People you go out on two dates with
  • Friends of your parents
  • Friends of your siblings
  • Distant relatives
  • Co-workers and other work contacts (sometimes even people you’ve never met)
  • People from schools you attended (friends, acquaintances, teachers, staff)
  • People who friend request strangers for reasons that no one can figure out
  • Those who you quickly find out are only on Facebook to spam you with the products they are selling

When you compare your in-person friends to the people you are connected to on Facebook, it can sometimes seem laughable. Many of these people you have nothing in common with, and yet somehow, they have become part of your digital community.

For those of us who are children of the 1980s, it would have been chuckle-worthy in our youth to think that we’d be sharing our vacation photos with our college science professor, posting about our engagement or anniversary so that our exes could see it, or telling 500 people what we are eating for lunch. I’m not knocking any of that, just pointing out how absurd that would have seemed to us, even at the beginning of this millennium.

Implications of anti-social media

It’s still a strange case study to me that you can be “friends” with someone on Facebook with no effort at all, just the click of a “request friend” button. Similarly, we can un-friend someone effortlessly, again just by clicking a button. In real life, making or losing friends bears no resemblance to that. We have to work hard to get to know someone and earn their friendship. If they offend us, it is much less sanitized to remove them than clicking them out of our lives. It can get messy.

But it’s messy in FB land too, sometimes. I don’t suppose I’m the only one who’s gone to message someone or see what they’re up to, only to realize I’ve been tossed to the digital curb, without so much as a “you can keep your opinions to yourself” parting shot. Depending on who it is, it can range anywhere from deeply hurtful to just a chin-scratch and move on.

For my part, I’ve unceremoniously unfriended dozens of people over the years also. My reasons vary from posting too much; posting too much that I hated; being a friend for a season that was ending; someone(s) I don’t enjoy in real life, so why be mandated to review their thoughts on life, and I’m sure plenty of other reasons.

I’ve modified my SOP over the years; I don’t unfriend people anymore. This is due in part to the glorious “unfollow” button, where you can remain friends without seeing their posts. So utterly passive-aggressive, yet so helpful. Judge me if you want.

Yet as I think on my various reasons I used to unfriend people without the courtesy of goodbye, I can’t help but think of some people who’ve ditched me that have hurt my feelings – especially those who I thought I was good friends with.

Thus we have the awkward anti-social element of Facebook. It’s even worse than breaking up with someone via text. You don’t even have to notify them. One day, you just see a former pal on the “suggested friends” list and realize, “HEYYY! I see what you did there. What did I do??”

Facebook friendships are easy come, easy go. I’ve come to conclude that, in its relationally primitive way, that is what it comes down to. My ditched “friends” never got an explanation from me, nor did I get one from my rejectors. It all comes out even in the end I suppose.

The point

My scattered, rambling point is mainly to highlight the sometimes ridiculous and artificial nature of Facebook friendships that have now become the norm.

There are myriad benefits to being connected to so many people. I personally enjoy keeping up with folks from all stages of life that I would probably never see otherwise. The drawbacks are real and awkward, however. I’m just here to point some of them out and chuckle about them when possible.

What are your thoughts on this subject? Who is the most random person you have on your Facebook friend list?


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No, Christianity Isn’t at Odds with “Science & Facts”

There is a growing liberal sentiment in the world today that having a Biblical worldview means compromising on or even disbelieving science. Phrases like “science denier” or “Christianity and science are incompatible” get thrown around a lot.

As Christians, we often get taken aback or find ourselves on the defensive when confronted with attacks such as these. In this post, I hope to provide some reasoning that not only levels the playing field a bit but makes those who doubt the Bible think about what they believe and why.

The primary issue of discussion here will be the subject of origins – creation vs. evolution.

First, let’s define science. Here are two similar definitions:

“the intellectual and practical activity encompassing the systematic study of the structure and behaviour of the physical and natural world through observation and experiment.”

“systematic knowledge of the physical or material world gained through observation and experimentation.” –

Science, at its core, involves things that can be observed and repeated through experimentation. Many scholars have noted that the origins of the universe are thus outside the realms of science. Regardless of whether you believe: evolution, creation, or something else, it is clear that no one was around to observe the universe coming into being.

What we have left are theories. The theory of evolution, the big bang theory, and the theory of creation (though it pains me to call it that; I am trying to be fair in my treatment of the subject).

When there are competing theories, and no way to prove any of them, any viewpoint that is taken necessarily involves faith. Just as the Bible-believing Christian holds to the Genesis account of how the universe and all within it came to be, so the irreligious person places their faith in Charles Darwin and secular work attempting to explain origins.


It is helpful to start by identifying the presuppositions, or assumptions, both perspectives bring to the table. The secular person often presupposes that God is not involved in origins at all. It may be fair to say they believe there is no God, and the universe came into existence through the Big Bang some billions of years ago, and things slowly evolved into the state they are now. Everything we see began as cosmic ooze, and over billions of years, turned into life, a well-ordered universe, complex beings, relationships and the like.

Creationists, on the other hand, see the astounding complexity of the universe and humanity and find the only reasonable explanation that there is an all-powerful Creator who orchestrated all of it.


Beyond presuppositions, the issue of authority I believe plays a role in which theory someone subscribes to. The Christian submits himself to the power of the Creator God as described in the Bible. When Genesis chapter one and two speaks plainly about how God brought the universe and people into being, we believe it.

The secularist, on the other hand, finds it distasteful or even laughable to believe that an all-powerful Being exists and created everything we see. They clamor to find other explanations, unwilling to concede the idea that the Biblical account is correct. As a Bible-believing Christian, there is a simple explanation for why someone would come to that conclusion. It is found in the book of Romans:

For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men who suppress the truth in unrighteousness, because that which is known about God is evident within them; for God made it evident to them.  For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen, being understood through what has been made, so that they are without excuse. For even though they knew God, they did not honor Him as God or give thanks, but they became futile in their speculations, and their foolish heart was darkened. Romans 1:18-21

In that passage, we see that failure to acknowledge God as the Creator is a matter of “suppressing the truth in unrighteousness.” I’ll admit that God, in His kindness, has granted me faith to believe His word (Ephesians 2:8). I can also see how a secular-minded person could push back with all their might against such an idea. Why? Because to admit the possibility of an all-powerful Creator is a scary proposition. If God exists, then having to answer to Him becomes something to grapple with, and that prospect is frightening.

“It is a terrifying thing to fall into the hands of the living God.” – Hebrews 10:31

Even those who know and love God can at times be overwhelmed at the thought of standing before Him one day. We have the comfort of the whole of Scripture to ease our fears, however (1 John 4:18). It is difficult for me to imagine how terrifying that would be as one who has rejected God or is choosing to ignore Him.

Same evidence, different conclusions

I find it interesting to note that our presuppositions and source of authority lead us to interpret data in a way that supports the conclusion our worldview finds most comfortable to believe in – whether we realize it or not.

For example, let us consider dating the age of the earth through fossils. Educators from all different worldviews access the same information, yet come up with vastly different conclusions. Some conclude billions of years, some only thousands. How can that be? The worldview, or interpretative lens through which the person views the world colors everything.

Do you remember the highly-publicized debate in 2014 between Bill Nye “The Science Guy” and Answers in Genesis’ Ken Ham? It was a valuable exercise showing how the two men, who are each famous for their respective views, lean into their worldviews to explain the way things are. If you are interested in it, it is a good watch, available here. (Note, it was recorded live so you can forward through the countdown.)

Creation as dismissable foolishness

Many holding the viewpoint of evolution are quick to dismiss creation without much thought. Many even look disdainfully at creationists as non-intellectuals. Those who do that may fail to acknowledge, as discussed at the beginning, that their worldview is also unprovable based on the definition of science. Every single person is biased, whether or not they realize it.

“But a natural man does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually appraised.– 1 Corinthians 2:14

What will you believe?

I have encountered numerous people who dismiss the Bible without even considering their own biases and presuppositions. Evolution is taught in schools as an assumed fact, but that has only been the case for around 100 years, by some accounts less.

I primarily want to challenge the notion that Biblical Christianity is at odds with science. Before Charles Darwin’s Origin of Species, published in 1859, the Genesis account was widely held, believed and taught in schools. There is a vast body of scientific work that corroborates the Noahic flood account in Genesis 6-9 and sheds light on a young earth and a worldwide flood to explain many geological discoveries we find today.

My goal in writing this post is to highlight some of the foundational issues that can go unnoticed in the debate of evolution vs. creation. Clearly, my goal is not to present a scientific case to back up my beliefs. I will leave that to people that are a lot smarter than I am.

The foundational question we all must ask ourselves is – what do I believe about the origins of the earth and why?

For Christians, I want to encourage you to not be intimidated by antagonistic assumptions leveled by non-believers.

For non-Christians, my hope and prayer are that you honestly evaluate your presuppositions about God and His involvement in the world. The Bible presents a compelling, logical, geological, historical and archaeological case for how things are and came to be.

A closer examination of these principles reveals that in fact, Christianity is NOT at odds with science and facts.

Regardless of your viewpoint, I would love to get your comments on this issue. Please be respectful. I will do the same. Thank you for reading!


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Repentance and Fridge Cleaning

Recently, I cleaned out my refrigerator. A DEEP clean. The type where you pull out every single item, and every single shelf, and scrub clean each shelf one at a time before replacing it and the food.

In the process, you find things that are disgusting, like rotten food that has gotten shoved to the back and long forgotten. Half consumed containers of various moldy items, and even worse, rotten produce in the bottom of the crisper drawers. As if that is not enough, there are stains from food spillage, and sometimes even crusties caked in the bottom of the fridge, and on the edge of the glass shelves, hidden by the plastic racks holding it.

I do a deep clean of my fridge 2-3 times per year. My OCD friends might gasp in disgust and proclaim, “You do it THAT INFREQUENTLY?? Not once a month??” On the other hand, the stereotypical bachelor might look at me oddly that I do it at all. Just being honest, people. Let he who has a spotless fridge cast the first stone.

As I was deep into the filthy task, I thought of a fitting parallel between that and repentance of sins for the Christian.

As my OCD friends might rightly point out, if I cleaned my fridge more often, it wouldn’t be as big and disgusting of a job. I can’t deny that.

In the same way, when as followers of Christ we ignore our sin and let it build up for long periods, things get … gross.

Contempt for those we don’t like and showing partiality to those who we think can give us something in return leaves a stain.

Pride and self-righteousness, looking down our noses at detestable sinners (like we once were) reveals the putrid, repulsive contents of our hearts.

Lips that are quick to talk about others behind their backs and call people names are fouler than a moldy jar of … whatever that black disgustingness is that I just pulled out from the rear of the fridge.

You get the idea.

As Christians, who have been justified by faith (Romans 3), repented of our sins and trusted in Christ for the redemption that comes through His sacrifice, which paid the price for our sins once and for all, Scripture assures us that we are clean before God (Romans 5:1).

As Christ alluded to in John 13, while washing His disciples’ feet:

So He came to Simon Peter. He said to Him, “Lord, do You wash my feet?” Jesus answered and said to him, What I do you do not realize now, but you will understand hereafter.” Peter said to Him, “Never shall You wash my feet!” Jesus answered him, If I do not wash you, you have no part with Me.” Simon Peter said to Him, “Lord, then wash not only my feet, but also my hands and my head.” Jesus said to him, He who has bathed needs only to wash his feet, but is completely clean; and you are clean,”

– John 13:6-10a

On a purely physical level, Peter was hesistant to have his Lord and Savior perform a servant’s task for him. But when Jesus insisted, Peter went all in, even to the point of bossing Jesus around, not understanding the point.

On a spiritual level, the foot washing could be understood as a metaphor for a provisional cleansing, for lack of a better term. The disciples, as followers of Jesus, were already spiritually clean. But as they, and us, move throughout the day, dust (sins) accumulate, which still need to be cleansed.

Just as a person who rarely washes his feet can become stinky to those around them, so one who avoids the cleansing that comes from regular repentance can become spiritually odious to God (and often to others as well) as his or her habitual sins pile up, gathering stench in their lives.

God calls the Christian to “work out your salvation with fear and trembling” (Philippians 2:12). One of the key ways to do that is to identify, and repent of, sin in every area of our lives, regularly. As we are cleansed “by the washing of water with the word” (Ephesians 5:26) and continually seek God in prayer, He kindly reveals to us specific instances and areas of sin in our lives.

Confessing and repenting of those things in light of a perfectly holy God is a humbling experience. As is tossing rotten jars of food and scrubbing nasty stains off shelves. The analogy falls short and may be perceived as irreverent, but it seems somewhat fitting.

Just as waiting for months to clean out the fridge yields a lot more scrubbing, so putting off the task of humbly coming before God makes it all the more humbling and painful, both unnecessarily so.

My fellow Christian, I hope you see the point. My sincere prayer is that you do not hinder the process of your sanctification by avoiding regular, heartfelt time in prayer, allowing God to search your heart and show you how you err (Psalm 19:12-13, Psalm 139:23-24).

The joyful fellowship with God that comes as a result is worth it.

Comments, questions – holler! As always, thank you so much for reading!


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The Weight of the World vs. The Weight of Glory

As Christians living in the world, awaiting the fulfillment of Christ’s promises to return and collect the elect for His kingdom, life can sometimes feel full of tension. We see the hurt, terror, injustice, and misery that occurs throughout the world (sometimes we experience it to one degree or another) and we feel helpless to do anything about it.

Broken families.

Natural disasters.

Corrupt governments made up of corrupt politicians.



Mistreatment of innocent people.

Slavery and human trafficking.

Sinful people hurting one another because all they know how to do is serve themselves.

It is too much to take, as we begin to dwell on it. The inescapable tragedy of the human condition is too weighty for words. It is more than enough to cause despair that can’t be overcome if our perspective is man-centered.

But for those of us who have repented of our sin and trusted Jesus Christ as our gracious and forgiving Savior, we have a different perspective. One that gives hope and meaning to every day and allows us to be full of gratitude and joy regardless of what life hands us or those around us.

The weight of the world is burdensome. But the weight of glory …

“Therefore we do not lose heart, but though our outer man is decaying, yet our inner man is being renewed day by day. For momentary, light affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of glory far beyond all comparison, while we look not at the things which are seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal.”

– 2 Corinthians 4:16-18

As we live for Christ, and study God’s word, we see an unmistakable perspective that teaches us to look beyond the pain and suffering of this world and look to the unshakable hope we have, not only for the future, but for each and every moment.

“Fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. For consider Him who has endured such hostility by sinners against Himself, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.” – Hebrews 12:2-3

Troubles of the world that come crashing into our lives can take our eyes off our glorious Lord Jesus Christ, and all too often they do. But they needn’t, and they shouldn’t. If we believe that “God causes all things to work together for good for those who love Him, to those who are called according to His purpose” (Romans 8:28), then we can rejoice in all circumstances (See 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18). Thinking on these things is a great solace for times of trouble.

Thinking of the great joy that awaits us as one day Christ ushers us home to enjoy perfection and the end of all suffering in the presence of the Father, Son and Spirit for all eternity ought to give us reason to praise God day and night. And as we look to Him and cling to His promises, we find that our own troubles pale in comparison. And that is just as it should be.

If you have any questions about this topic, please leave a comment – I would love to talk more about it. Thank you for reading!

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Balancing Humor and Gospel Sober-Mindedness

I love to laugh, be silly and spread humor and ridiculum. It gives me great joy to discover or think up something funny and share it with others. If it makes me laugh, or smile, I figure it might do the same for at least a few other people.

When left to my own antics, I am naturally inclined to be a silly person. When life gets stressful, that side of me can take a backseat, unfortunately, but silliness is my default.

In recent years I’ve noticed that as I have continued walking with the Lord, and have become more committed to in-depth Bible study and prayer, I sometimes find myself going through more weighty thought patterns. After all, the world out there is getting crazier, darker, more depressing and evil all the time.

People need the hope of redemption through Christ, and there are only so many hours in the day. There are so many pressing concerns for which to pray, so many passages to read, so many relationships to invest in, so many people to serve. There is always a tidal wave of urgent matters for which the Christian can and should concern himself or herself.

In light of all that, it is easy to get lost in the thoughtful nature of living the Christian life to the fullest for the glory of God. For me, I entertained the idea that gospel sober-mindedness (that is, being alert and obedient to God’s work – 1 Thessalonians 5:5-8, 2 Timothy 4:5) can squeeze out the humor and silliness that I find so delightful.

This is a dilemma that I have wrestled with recently. In doing so, I was tempted to think that one has to dominate over the other: be immersed in work for the kingdom, or be silly. It is true that these things don’t naturally seem to fit together. After all, when I am defending the truths of God’s word, cracking jokes seems to fade away for the time being.

While it might be two different mindsets, I have ultimately concluded they are not mutually exclusive by any means.

If I believe that God is the giver of all good gifts (James 1:17), then I must acknowledge that humor is a gift from Him. If it is a gift from Him, then He has a purpose for it, and it is to be enjoyed (1 Timothy 6:17). That being the case, suppressing humor in light of “serious” work seems less like an either/or and more like “both please!”

The Bible teaches that we are made in God’s image (see Genesis 1, James 3, Psalm 8). It follows therefore that characteristics we have that are positive, such as an appreciation for, or the gift of, humor is a reflection of God Himself. He can’t give us humor if he doesn’t have it to give.


In light of this reasoning, the question then becomes, what do we do with this knowledge? Like other ontological issues, the answer is to use what God has given us for His glory (Colossians 3:17, 23). If I have a sense of humor, I am to use it for the good of others and the glory of God. This in and of itself can be a service to Him, and could also be useful in kingdom work.

I’m not suggesting that humor should be as prioritized as equally as earnest gospel work. I am of the mindset that engaging in the spiritual disciples of Bible study and prayer take the highest priority.

Like anything, gifts from God such as humor are obviously misused for evil and corrupted intent just as certainly as worldly comics use vulgar words as adjectives. But knowing from Whom we received such a kind endowment and its intended use, we don’t need to worry about leaving it behind in favor of “serious” work.

Thoughts on this subject are always welcome!

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Traveling New Zealand: South Island Majestic Beauty

The first two weeks of 2019 found my husband Mike and I taking a road trip through the stunningly beautiful South Island of New Zealand. The how and why of our ending up there went a little something like this.

2018 marked a milestone birthday for me (the big 4-0!). To celebrate, I wanted to go on a memorable vacation. Mike and I both love to travel, and we use special occasions as a reason to go on bigger trips than we usually would (like our fifth anniversary trip to Australia in 2015).

We’d been saving up air miles from our Delta AmEx card for four years, and finally had enough to buy one round trip ticket anywhere in the world. We’d also been nursing our travel budget back to health after our last big trip a few years ago. I was initially planning to do a week in South Florida in the spring of 2018 (closer to my actual birthday) because we could have paid for both our plane tickets with air miles. But New Zealand has been pretty high on our travel bucket list for quite some time. So I figured early in the year that if we waited until closer to the end of the year, we’d have a chance to save enough to make it happen. By the grace of God, we did.

Four days after Christmas, we went wheels up. In doing some looking at various flight itineraries, and knowing that we wanted to wait until after Christmas to go, I planned our route so that we would have a stopover in Sydney, Australia for New Year’s Eve. Sydney does a massive, world-renowned fireworks display to ring in the New Year, and I figured since we were going to be in that part of the world then anyway, it would be our only chance to catch it live.

It was mayhem, but it was totally worth it. NYE is big business in Sydney. They shoot off fireworks from the Sydney Harbor Bridge, as well as several places on the water throughout the harbor. Prime viewing locations are along the water, and they have figured out how to block access to the public from those locations, so they can charge a steep admission price for viewing. We talked to a couple that paid $400 per person! Since the fireworks were only a bonus on our trip, and not an essential piece, we opted not to pay for a prime spot. We decided to take our chances of finding a free location.

The fireworks start at midnight, so after taking a post 14-hour flight nap (an essential), we headed out around 9 p.m. to make our way downtown. We ended up on a street with a view overlooking the Harbor Bridge, with obstruction of another freeway overpass. The crowds were starting to get thick in the area, and we figured this was about the best we’d find for free.

In the video below, the crowd gets amped for the fireworks … then a short clip of them.

It was exhilarating to be able to witness the iconic event, even with the obstruction. Adding to the thrill was the happy, hyper crowd of thousands of strangers with whom we rang in 2019. (You can get a better view of the fireworks by googling it for a YouTube video.)

The next day, we had until mid-afternoon to wander about town, gawk at the Opera House and grab some lunch before we got on our flight to … Christchurch, New Zealand!!!!!

Our flight got in at midnight, so the following morning we picked up our rental car and embarked on the first day of our 12-day road trip covering the South Island. I had spent dozens of hours researching the sights to see and had put together an itinerary of how far we’d drive and where we’d stay each night of the trip.

Our first destination was Hanmer Springs, a lovely hot springs tourist town surrounded by rugged, tree-lined mountains. Spoiler alert: almost everything we saw was made more beautiful by rugged, tree-lined mountains, so that phrase and ones like it will come up a lot.

We paid the admission price for the hot springs resort and spent an evening soaking in various tubs of hot mineral water, with a great view. Quite relaxing. The largest pool also had a “lazy river,” which was more like a “raging river” and we had a riot being carried along by the current alongside strangers who were also having a fun time.

Hanmer Springs, Hanmer Springs Thermal Pool and Spa, New Zealand

A peek at the view beyond the hot springs

The next morning we made a side trip out to Kaikoura, where we had been told we could see whales and possibly penguins. No dice, so we continued on our way to Nelson, where we were highly anticipating not only a charming bed & breakfast but the warmest beaches on the island. Neither disappointed.

Nelson, New Zealand

Enjoying a little float in the ocean at Nelson

The pale greenish-blue water of the sea was slightly chilly but highly swimmable. The B&B was a beautifully restored old farmhouse on an eclectic farm tucked away in the mountains, but 15 minutes from downtown Nelson and the beach. The host was an entertaining fellow who was eager to chat with us about New Zealand and give us his unique spin on a myriad of topics. His partner was a former restauranteur, who made us a delicious breakfast the following morning.

Retiro Park Lodge, Retiro Farm Lodge, Nelson New Zealand

The digs at Retiro Park Lodge – Nelson, NZ

A little bit more time on the beach the following day, and it was time to head to our next destination of Westport, to begin the West Coast portion of our trip.

Westport turned out to be a mediocre beach town, with a beachfront that was nothing to write home about, especially compared to the beach we came from, and the beautiful beaches on the West Coast of the United States. We did find a cute B&B to stay, with a super nice older couple.

Lonely Planet ranks the 63-mile drive from Westport to Greymouth as one of the top 10 coast drives in the world, so we were excited to be driving it the following day.  Lush, green hills with rainforest-like vegetation greeted us on one side, the light blue ocean water on the other.

Great Coast Road New Zealand, Westport to Greymouth

A view from the Great Coast Road from Westport to Greymouth

Besides pulling off at viewpoints for pictures and video, we stopped at Punakaiki’s “Pancake Rocks,” a series of curious rock formations along the coast that looks like giant stacks of pancakes. There are also some impressive blowhole crevices among the rocks that showcase the fascinating landscape amidst frothy churning ocean water below.

"Pancake Rocks" at Punakaiki

“Pancake Rocks” at Punakaiki

Another stop that day involved driving about 30 minutes off the beaten path. Hokitika Gorge is a scenic, narrow river gorge where regular water mixes with glacier mineral sediment to form a captivating bright blue for a short section of the river:

Hokitika Gorge, New Zealand

Hokitika Gorge

I had seen it on my research and was eager to make the trip to see it in person. Well worth it.

It was also around this time in the trip that we were introduced to an obnoxious insect: the sandfly. Before I knew its name, I called it the bitey fly. I bet you can guess why. Many of my pictures were made blurry because of jerking the camera as every inch of exposed flesh became a sandfly landing strip when standing still. Their bites itched like crazy during the duration of our trip.  It was like camping by a Pacific Northwest lake in July. But I digress. On with the progression…

A turn inland lead us through the tip of the unbelievably beautiful Mt. Aspiring National Park. Once again, we drank in beautiful steep tree-lined vistas with more waterfalls than we could count, along a raging river. I could have caught many bugs in my mouth because it was agape as I looked about in disbelief at the scenery.

Roaring Billy Falls, Mount Aspiring National Park, New Zealand

Roaring Billy Falls, Mount Aspiring National Park, New Zealand

That night we stayed at a lovely Airbnb room in the gorgeous hills 20 minutes outside of the beautiful lakeside town of Wanaka. (More on Wanaka later in the trip.) Our hosts were a delightful couple who had recently moved to this gorgeous home from the bigger city of Christchurch for a change of pace. They had converted two bedrooms to Airbnb rentals, and we were pleased to have found this quiet, scenic locale to relax after some long days of driving and sightseeing.

We were pleased (for once) to wake up in the middle of the night, for we found that the clouds had burned off, revealing the majestic Southern Hemisphere night sky, which features an entirely different view and set of constellations than we see in the Western United States. We silently star gazed and admired the beauty and vastness of God’s creation.

Next up, the long, beautiful drive to take a peek at Milford Sound, the gorgeous, famous fiord that often serves as the pictorial icon for New Zealand. Also, it was recently featured in the opening scene of Mission Impossible: Fallout, which we had just watched before leaving on our trip.

Milford Sound, New Zealand (Fiordland National Park)

Milford Sound, New Zealand (Fiordland National Park). Two cruise ships showing as tiny white dots on the lower right show the scale of the fiords.

We shot pictures and video like the tourists we are, then made our way to our lodging in Te Anau on the eve of the highlight of our trip: an overnight cruise through Doubtful Sound, another sound in the massive, remote Fiordland National Park.

A fjord (or fiord as spelled by Kiwis), is defined as “a long, narrow, deep inlet of the sea between high cliffs, as in Norway and Iceland, typically formed by submergence of a glaciated valley.” If you are not familiar with this, do a google image search to get an idea.

No words can describe the majestic, unspeakable beauty we beheld over an afternoon, evening and morning. Even pictures don’t capture the sheer scale and beauty of this natural wonder. Three-thousand foot cliffs with waterfalls galore towered on either side of us as our ship cut through the serene waters of the sound until we reached the churning Tasman Sea. The whole experience was like a prolonged worship service, praising the power and creative brilliance of our Creator God who made such a stunning display for us to enjoy. Not to mention, we were fed like kings and queens on this short cruise!

Doubtful Sound was rightfully the visual climax of our trip. We knew that it would be difficult to surpass its beauty. However, we still had five days to go and were pleasantly surprised at the fantastic stuff that we were yet to see.

Our next stop was Queenstown, a bustling adventure city at the base of picturesque mountains, on the shores of the blue-green Lake Wakatipu. I’d really been anticipating this place, one that I had dubbed “the Bend (Oregon) of New Zealand” based on my research.

It was indeed a happening town: a hip crowded downtown area on the waterfront, and very difficult to find a place to park. Our anticipation about the city was dampened when we discovered that the hostel where I had booked us two nights to stay turned out to be much more ghetto than the strategic, misleading pictures on the website had led me to believe. Let’s just say the mattress was several years overdue for replacing, and there were some pretty stunning safety concerns arising from deferred maintenance on the place. 😉

We got a good laugh out of it, but we were more motivated to find outside things to do until late at night, to minimize the time spent in our dingy room.

The hostel was a good value (we saw why a bit too late), and it had a great location just a few minutes from the action of the lakefront downtown. It was also right at the base of a tall hill with a gondola going to the top, with a panoramic view of the area. Upon discovering that there was also a hiking trail to the top, we opted the next morning to get some exercise in rather than pay for the gondola ride. Well worth it, not only because we love to hike, but the calorie consumption-to-exercise ratio tends to get skewed quite a bit on vacation.

Queenstown New Zealand gondola, skyline Queenstown

Looking down at Queenstown after our hike. Skydiver coming down in the upper right. 🙂

That afternoon, we drove up the other side of the lake to Glenorchy, where we were promptly proved wrong about thinking we had seen all the spectacular scenery already. The lake turned a dazzling turquoise and was framed by snow-capped peaks along the drive. The town itself was in the center of all that beauty, and we stared in amazement, cameras flashing like crazy.

Lake Wakatipu near Glenorcy, New Zealand

Overlooking Lake Wakatipu on the way to Glenorchy.

The next stop was one I was also excited about (like everything on the trip. Ha.): Wanaka, positioned on the edge of a beautiful lake of the same name. Since we’d seen it earlier in the trip, we anticipated our return. Mike had found us an Airbnb private cabin up in the hills overlooking the lake and the mountains. Just our speed, and a welcome change of pace from the broken-spring-mattress dump we had just left.

Since every previous day was filled with driving and sightseeing galore, staying parked by a beautiful lake for two days seemed like heaven. That is one of my favorite things to do on vacation back home, so it was the best of both worlds; having a summertime lakeside vacay on the other side of the world.

We swam (the water was very cold but easy enough to adapt to for a lake-aholic such as me), laid out on the beach, rented a kayak and paddleboard, AND discovered that the brewpub across the street from the lake was just our speed as well. To top it off, we learned that a famous tree sticking out of the lake that is well promoted on social media via hashtag marketing (#ThatWanakaTree) was within the range we could paddle to, so we did the obligatory tourist thing and took pictures.

Wanaka, Lake Wanaka, #ThatWanakaTree

Oh, look! It’s #ThatWanakaTree. I played along with their marketing gimmick.

Our two days at the lake were the last big items on the agenda, and we were left with two days to make it back to Christchurch, from where our homebound flight departed.

Even still, there was more amazing things to see: Mount Cook, and a couple more beautiful blue glacier-fed lakes. Our drive towards the majestic jagged snowy peaks of Cook and surrounding mountains was enhanced by the beautiful Lake Pukaki in the foreground.

Mount Cook, Lake Pukaki, New Zealand

Mt. Cook, with Lake Pukaki in the foreground.

Driving to Mount Cook Village at the end of the road, we wished we had a few more days to do some hiking in the area. But after our requisite amount of gawking, we headed out to the inevitable end of our fabulous trip.

On our way back to Christchurch, we stopped at Timaru along the coast, the recent home of a colony of little blue penguins we were hoping to see. Turns out, they only come out after sunset, and we had to be in Christchurch that night for a super early morning flight, so we weren’t able to see them.


If you’ve read to this point, congrats and thank you-you are a champ and perseverer. This trip was a dream come true for us, and we marveled the entire time at the beauty we beheld. Our running joke was that we should have had helmets on the whole time, to contain the mess from our heads exploding daily at the sheer delight of the scenery.

If you want to chat further or have any questions or comments, I am all ears. I suspect I will be eager to talk about New Zealand for years to come.

Here is a map outlining some more detail about our route. Thanks again for reading!



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Update on Running Mileage Goal

At the beginning of 2018, I wrote a post outlining my plan to run 500 miles during the course of the year.

As of 12/29, I have logged 505* miles!

Extremely pleased to have completed one of my goals for the year.

The * caveat is to denote a couple things.

1. I originally planned to hit 500 miles with running alone, an acheiveable, yet ambitious goal.

2. Partway through the year, I decided to include ALL miles logged in fitness pursuits, to include walking (not everyday steps), hiking, and cycling miles.

3. Starting in September, I started adding to my log the walking mileage included in my journey down to the trail where I run (.6 miles each way). If I had been adding that all year, my mileage report would have been significantly higher.

I had a few other fitness goals involving numbers this year that are still in progress. But that gives me something to look forward to accomplishing!

I wanted to share my good news with you all before 2018 comes to a close. Have a happy New Year!

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Personal Reflections from 2018

2018 was a year like no other. Please disregard the fact that can be said about most years. 🙂 This year was unique; this post will explain why as well as a rare backstage pass into the reflections and lessons of yours truly.

I am well aware that if you are clicked on this post, odds are you are one of the elite few who cares enough to read my personal reflections. I don’t mean that callously, to imply that not many care about me. That is not true. Instead, I am saying that there aren’t that many who would take the time out of their day to read a post like this without a flashy title. Please know that I appreciate you more than you probably know. I’ll try to make this update worth your valuable time.

2018 was a unique year because it found me in a set of circumstances that were foreign to me. At the end of 2017, I had gotten laid off from my job as the Operations Manager for a small marketing company for which I had worked for the previous 2.5 years.  I found myself facing the holidays with the reality of being able to claim unemployment benefits for the first time in my life. My opportunities were wide open, and I looked forward to the possibilities. (Side note: in all previous instances of being laid off from jobs over the past decade, I had been working as an independent contractor, and thus disqualified from unemployment. So being able to file for it was in itself unique to me.)

I was determined to make the most of this transition, using my time wisely. I made a fresh commitment to getting up at 5:30 a.m. each morning, so I could be intentional to start the day with time reading God’s word and praying, as well as exercising before getting into the grind of the day.  This was always my goal as a full-time employee also, and I was able to do it about half the time, but I found that even then either my “quiet time” or workout time was cut short, because it was hard to do both and make it to an office job by 9 a.m. So one or the other suffered. I wrote about that struggle in this post.

Not long into my period of unemployment, I was offered a job that I had held in 2009, working as office help for a friend’s business. This particular friend ran his company (as a real estate appraiser) out of his home, and it was a casual environment. He offered a part-time gig with generous pay and plenty of flexibility. My only hesitation was that it was part-time, and I wasn’t sure if the wages would pencil out for our budget. I ran some numbers and realized we could make it work if we were extremely careful. So I gratefully accepted my friend’s offer, knowing I had the flexibility to fit in other employment as needed.

Thus, I ended 2017 and began 2018 working part-time for the first time in my professional life. This presented a variety of conflicting sentiments and realities.

… As a full-time employee, I always pined for more free time to get more accomplished on the homefront and spend more time on hobbies (like blogging!).

… As a part-time employee, I suddenly had more unscheduled time than I had in years, tempered with the reality of diminished finances that came with my schedule.

… As a full-time employee with multiple exciting professional positions over the years, I most often had a job that became my identity. The answer to the question, “What’s new with you?” could always be answered with the latest stress, challenges, adventures, or business travel that occupied my world.

… As a part-time office employee with a job that didn’t provide any drama or stress (not complaining about that), I realized my world had become less filled with stories and excitement. When someone asked me, “What’s new?” I struggled to answer. Since my job was only a piece of my life and not the defining portion, I didn’t know what to say.

Lest you think that is sad and pathetic, allow me to continue. This is actually where things got good when I stopped to ponder my situation.

Being vs. doing – processing the conflict

Have you ever stopped to ponder the paradox of being vs. doing? In other words, who you are vs. what you do. Or put another way, the state of your existence, or who you are becoming or wish to become, vs. the daily activities you do. It is a fascinating mental exercise. But it also breeds the complexity of pondering a paradox, because of their intertwined nature. I.e., you can’t become without doing, but enjoying the “being” portion is necessary also.

All that to say, that was something I thought about a bit this year as my lifestyle was turned upside down.

Given the gift of more time at home, I had the luxury of doing more strategic and less tactical, survival mode living. I chose to use my time for such things as:

Expanding my culinary skills, making new recipes more often.

Keeping up on chores/housework a bit better (always a struggle).

Joining a women’s Bible study at church, with intensive homework.

Most often taking the time to complete the intensive homework, which was enormously beneficial.

Taking more time in the morning to read the word and pray.

Making sure to exercise regularly after quiet time (As noted above. My work schedule helped accommate the time to do that with a later start time).

Taking more time to visit with relatives.

Spending more time with friends. (For a task-oriented introvert such as myself, this and the item above get easier to skimp on the older I get.)

Getting a record number of blog posts written in a year (didn’t make my goal of one per week, but got close).

Being more deliberate, strategic and prayerful about my interactions with the middle school students at church, at the youth group where I volunteer.

Listening to a lot more informative podcast content and less music. Reading more books.

Growing in my knowledge of theology (mainly due to the above & quiet time) and love of God.

Recognizing the need to speak the truth in love and practicing when given opportunities. Even when it is poorly received, regardless of how lovingly spoken/written.

Nurturing an urgency to have spiritual conversations with others more often (discipleship).

Getting more organized, bit by bit.

Then there is the recreational/fun stuff, like hiking, camping, family weekend trips, exploring the Northwest and get-togethers with friends.

It was indeed a full year. Full of activity, growth, and fun. Yet, with all the small but significant things that ended up keeping me just as busy as any other year, it was difficult to give a brief response to the question, “How’s it going?”

Perhaps it is a flaw in my thinking that I have felt it necessary to be able to give a concise response, or that my life needs to be full of drama or an important job title to be significant. In pondering “being versus doing,” I realized that in fact, “being” the person God is making me to be, though not always with an exciting story at the ready, is of higher value than I give it credit.

Learning to be content with a smaller budget and lifestyle was a dominant theme for the year. And you know what? I am better off for it.

I should also mention that I spent quite a bit of time this year working on a project I am very excited about that I am prepping to announce in early 2019!

2017 was a tough year, with multiple deaths of dear ones and various other challenges. 2018 was a year of adapting to changes and finding joy and delight in a simpler life.
2019 should be amazing. I am looking forward to a lot more moments to savor and enjoying the people God has placed in my life.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this update! I wish you joy, peace, love, and contentment as we head into the New Year!






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To Emote or To Reason: A Primer for Biblical Thinking

“We are living in a time where people hear with their eyes and think with their feelings.” – Ravi Zacharias

In a YouTube/social media driven world, the way we communicate and think has been turned on its head from ages gone by. Somewhere along the way, we’ve lost not only some valuable interpersonal skills, but our ability to separate emotion from reason has diminished as a society.

I want to make an observation of how I’ve seen some negative effects of this phenomenon creep into the church and into Christian thought. Then I will propose some suggestions.

First, It seems that Christian church in the United States to a large degree has disregarded or devalued the authority of God’s Word. The results of such a deterioration are always destructive. It can be argued that the church has opened itself up to some highly damaging ideas as a result. Whether corporately or individually, if one replaces the highest authority with a lesser, inferior authority, sub-par thinking and action will result.

In my observation, many have replaced God’s word as their measuring stick with things like cultural standards, the approval of others, or their own personal experiences and emotions. These things are necessarily always changing, unstable, unreliable and 100% subject to the corruption of sin. So it seems they are highly faulty standards by which to guide our lives. God’s word, on the other hand, remains the same and was intended to be the final authority in the lives of Christians.

As followers of Christ, we ought to continually becoming more like Him (Colossians 3, Philippians 1:6). He is our example (1 Peter 2:21-25).  If that is the case, let’s take a look at how he handled certain situations that may be instructive to us and serve as a guide after which we can model our decision making.

1. When Pharisees were testing Jesus about the moral law concerning divorce

Jesus’ response was, “Have you not read..” and then he proceeded to quote the law from Genesis in the Old Testament containing the answer to their question.

When Pharisees challenged that answer by citing an example that seemingly overrode the Scripture, Jesus’ response was to point to the original intent of the law, point out the sin that created an immoral exception, then not only reinforce the original law but expand upon its moral implications (Matthew 19:3-9).

Application: Jesus not only expects those who know Him to know the Scriptures, He does not deviate from demanding obedience to the law as given.

2. When the Sadduccees challenged Jesus about an erroneous belief they held

Mark 12:18-27 details an account when the Sadducces (It’s so sad, you see. That couldn’t be helped.), who did not believe in resurrection, asked Jesus about it, hoping to trip Him up with a question to justify their unbelief.

Jesus wasted no time in correcting their error: “Is this not the reason you are mistaken, that you do not understand the Scriptures or the power of God?” He then proceeded to cite another Old Testament passage and provided an application of it that completely destroyed their error.

Application: Scripture must be taken as a whole and rightly interpreted (2 Timothy 2:15) to correct errors in our thinking. Jesus declared the Scriptures to be the words of God. How can we possibly do otherwise?

3. Jesus stressed the work of God’s kingdom as the highest priority

The Savior Himself was on mission from God the Father the whole time He was on earth. He did not deviate from that directive, and pointed to that same priority for His followers.

  • When His mother and brothers came to retrieve Him from the crowds, because they weren’t yet believing, He stressed that “My mother and My brothers are these  who hear the word of God and do it.” In other words, obedience to God as a result of membership in His family can and sometimes should be prioritized above our earthly relationships.
  • In Matthew 13, our Lord gave some parables to indicate the value of seeking Him. An example: “The kingdom of heaven is like a treasure hidden in a field, which a man found and hid again; and from joy over it, he goes and sells all that he has and buys that field.”
  • Later, He issues this decree: “If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up His cross and follow Me.” – Matthew 16:24

Application: Nothing is more important to Christians than obedience to God. Nothing.

4. God provided a way for us to know Him and His expectations

Through the supernaturally inspired word of God (2 Timothy 3:16), we have a trustworthy record of not only what He has done, but also what He is doing and what He will do in the future. Contained in that are hundreds of prophecies whose fulfillment has already come to pass, and those which will be fulfilled.

It is no secret that there is a lot to the Bible. Thousands of years of history, the law, the prophets, and the New Testament. It all works together to tell the story of creation and humanity. Yet, parts of it can be difficult to understand and apply correctly. God’s people down through the ages have endeavored to do so, and must continue.

It should be of great comfort to the believer that Jesus, before He ascended back into heaven, took the time to explain the mysteries of God to His disciples. We are told that for those to whom He appeared on the road to Emmaus on the first Easter, “beginning with Moses and with all the prophets, He explained to them the things concerning Himself in all the Scriptures.” (Luke 24:27) (AKA the best Bible study in the history of the world!)

Shortly after that, He appeared to the eleven disciples, freshly resurrected from the dead, and “then He opened their minds to understand the Scriptures,” (Luke 24:45). It is no coincidence that some of these men, who received direct revelation from God the Son Himself, were the ones appointed to write the New Testament, and whose eyewitness accounts were used by other first century New Testament writers as primary source material.

Application: We can trust what God says in His word, because it has been tested and proven. God’s decrees and will are not a mystery. We must apply ourselves to learn what He has revealed.

So what does all this mean?

I’m so glad you asked! My premise above is that we as individual Christians as well as the church corporately, get ourselves in big trouble when we take our eyes off faithfulness to God’s word and instead allow shifting cultural morality, seeking the approval of others, and our own selfish desires, emotions and experiences to be our focus and the filter through which we think and prioritize our lives.

If we have wrong beliefs, thought patterns, priorities or actions, digging into Scripture with the intent to learn what God has to say will correct those. By that, I do not mean proof-texting isolated verses out of context to back up what we already believe. I do mean, letting Scripture speak for itself and committing to learning the whole counsel of God (Acts 20:27).

By uncovering the living and active word of God, we’ll see our lives transformed from the inside out, and by the kind intent of our Lord, His kingdom will be expanded for His glory and our eternal reward. Isn’t that better than any other alternative?

What are your thoughts on this subject? Have you seen your own life or that of someone you know be transformed by God’s word? Please share any comments or questions! Thanks for reading.

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A Christmas Prayer

This post is for anyone like me, who sometimes struggles to not only get into the Christmas spirit but to fight through the cultural holiday distractions to focus on the meaning of Christmas. This is a prayer I will pray often as the big day draws near.

Heavenly Father,

How quickly the Christmas season comes upon us. We get up from the Thanksgiving table, where we rightly pause to share our gratitude for your good gifts (James 1:17), only to be bombarded with all manner of Christmas music, most of which has nothing to do with your Son and a constant barrage of commercial reminders about getting that perfect gift for everyone on our lists.

It’s distracting. I confess it causes my mind and heart to focus more on the trappings of Western Christmas traditions than on the miracle that we celebrate that day.  I want my Christmas spirit to be rightly focused on You, and the glorious incarnation of Your Son, the Lord Jesus Christ, who came down and humbled Himself in human flesh to fulfill the prophecies set in motion in the Garden of Eden. To activate Your perfect, incorruptible, unstoppable plan to make a way for humanity to be redeemed.

Christmas is a wonderful time of year. The most wonderful, according to not only a song, but reality as we consider its unmatched significance. So while I conform to the cultural traditions of Christmas, allow me to keep my heart stayed on Christ.

As I decorate and enjoy the tree, let its beauty remind me of His far superior beauty.

As I shop for gifts, may I meditate on the perfect gift of Christ’s example, life, teachings, death, and resurrection.

As I spend time with friends and family, grant that I would appreciate them, love them as myself, and be thankful for them, as a gift from You.

As I consider the financial sacrifice of year-end giving to the church and other worthy organizations,  remind me that Christ sacrificed Himself, for our salvation.

Finally, as I dwell on my undeserved adoption into Your family, let it move my heart to compassion and action, to share the Good News of Christ to those who do not know, who go through the motions of Christmas detached from its true meaning.

These things I pray, in the name of Christ Jesus, Whom we celebrate. Amen.

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